Fired!! *hangs head in shame*

So, I am a complete failure.  I haven't posted in months!  
A lot has happened, and yet nothing much has happened.  I got a job mid-March working at a local grocery store, which was nice.  I had a job, yay!  I applied to 3 universities, but only got into one, so guess where I am now going to school?  The second week in July my family went on their annual camping trip.  For the most part it was a lot of fun. Right after we got back I moved to my university town because I had gotten a job working at a call center and needed to get through training before school started.  Well, I made it through training and started taking calls and then realized that I hated it.  I quit that job the week before school started and have been looking for a new job since then.  School started two weeks ago, and has been going quite well.  I have one class that is almost completely grad students, so I feel rather dumb in that class, but I will manage to deal with it.
I applied for a job working with one of my professors, who is also the director of the museum at my school.  I spoke with his secretary on Friday, and she thinks that I will work out well for the position.  I just have to talk to my professor now, but he is out of town all next week, so it will have to wait until the week after.  Keep your fingers crossed for me!
So, one good thing that come from working at the call center is that I found out about Bountiful Baskets.  The call center is the pick up site for my area.  For those of you who don't know, Bountiful Baskets is a co-op that provides fresh produce at a major discount.  The traditional basket they offer is about 50-60 dollars worth of fruits and vegetables for 15 dollars.  Sometimes they will also offer other things like organic bread and various types of other produce or granola.  This time around they were offering 20 pound boxes of Asian pears for 16.50.  I love Asian pears, so I had to get a box.  I am munching on one even as I type this.  My fridge is full of yummy produce now, which makes me happy.  I love produce, but it is so expensive here that I have a hard time buying it.
If you love produce, I highly recommend getting Bountiful Baskets.  They are amazing.
So, I don't think I have mentioned it before, but I like to write.  I have started about 5 or 6 novels, but I haven't really done anything with them.  I have decided that I am going to finish one, so I have started working on it a few days a week.  Are you interested in reading what I have?  If you are, let me know your email address and I can send you what I have.  If you like it I will send you updates as I complete pages.
Well, that about sums up my life for the past few months.
How have things been going for you?

Walking in a Winter Wonderland. . . NOT!

So, I have been back in the States for about a week and a half now and I feel like I am living in the arctic.  Everything is white and FREEZING!!!
However, I am very excited to be back with my family, especially since my mother and grandmother worked so hard to make a room for me in the basement.
The house we are living in is the house my father grew up in and it has three bedrooms, one bath, a kitchen, a living room and an unfinished basement.  Now imagine trying to fit a family of seven into this house. . .  Somehow my father's family managed it, but I still don't know how they all survived it!  I was expecting to have to share a room with my older sister or to be sleeping on the couch (not a happy thought since my brother likes to get up and wander around at all hours of the night and I am a rather light sleeper most of the time), neither of which I was looking forward to.  I love my older sister, but she goes to bed about two or three hours before I do and my dad is usually watching tv in the living room until he goes to bed, so I don't really have any place that I could do my stuff, like playing on the internet or reading, before I go to bed.  I figured I would find a way to deal with it though.
Well, when I finally got home, my sisters and I, who had driven separately from my parents and brother, walked in the door and my mom called to us from the basement saying a window had broken because of the snow and had shorted out the lights and we needed to go down and help clean up.  We went down and walked to where my parents and brother were and then my younger sister flipped on the lights and there was a cozy little bedroom all set up for me!  It is wonderful.  One wall is just blankets, but that is okay.  It works for me.  I have to have two little electric space heaters running or it gets really cold, but hey, I have my own room!  I am way excited about that.  I love that my family worked so hard to give me my own space.


In other news, my brother got the paternity test results back.  There is a 0% chance that he is the father.  Yay!  He really is too young to be a father and I would not want to subject any child to him as a father at the moment.  I hope that one day he will straighten up and be a great man, but for right now he is just a stupid little boy.  I still love him, but I hate the choices he is making in his life right now.


So, do you ever have a dream that when you wake up, it puts you in a funky mood for the rest of the day?  I had one of those dreams last night, and if I give myself any time to think, I get in a dark, funky mood.  I hate that!


So, I don't recall if I have mentioned it before, but I have a gluten intolerance.  For those of you who don't know what gluten is, it is basically what makes wheat flour sticky.   It can also be found in barley and some types of oats.  So, I have had to make my diet gluten free for the most part.  I can eat small amounts and be okay, but if I eat very much it makes me miserable.  The whole point of this is to let you know that I think I found a new side effect when I eat gluten.
Last night I was a rather bad and ate breaded chicken tenders, ranch dressing (which has monosodium glutamate, a type of gluten), and I rounded it all off by eating two cookies from Subway.  Well, in addition to feeling very sick to my stomach this morning, I also realized that I was much more tired than usual.  I hadn't gotten any less sleep, so I figure that the tiredness must be a side effect of the gluten consumption. . .  I could be wrong, but it is a thought.


Well, I think I have rambled and subject hopped sufficiently for now.  Any fun little anecdotes in your life?

Happy New Year!!!

Hey!  How are you doing?  It has been a few months since I updated.  So, here is a summary of the past few months.  School has finished for the semester, but I am teaching a few special winter classes.  I taught a 4 day winter English camp, two days of which were spent at a ski resort.  I have two days of teaching left, Monday and Tuesday of next week.  Then I will be done teaching.  I fly back to the States on January 26th.  How exciting is that?  I am happy to be going home.  I miss my family.

Speaking of my family, I spoke to them today and got some interesting news.  My younger brother informed me that a girl he knows is giving her child up for adoption, and oh, by the way, the child might be yours.  He is going in for the DNA test on Thursday.  Crazy, I know.  He is far too young to be a father.  If it turns out that the child is his, he will have to decide if he wants to consent to giving the child up for adoption or if he wants to take responsibility and raise the child.

I have been mulling this situation over all day and have come to a few realizations/conclusions.

The first is that I really hope the child isn't my brother's.  He really isn't ready for that kind of responsibility.  He is still too young.

Second:  There is a tiny part of me that wants the baby to be his, for very selfish reasons.  I want a baby in my life.  I don't want my own child yet, but I would love to be able to come home and play with a baby for as long as I wanted.  I realize that this is not a good reason for wishing fatherhood on my brother.  He really isn't ready.

I have been missing babies lately.  I love playing with them, but I don't know anyone here who has a baby that I could play with.  Good thing I have a cousin who has a baby, huh?  Guess who I will be kidnapping frequently as soon as I am in the States again?

Two weeks from today I will be leaving Korea for good.  Will I ever make it back here again?  I sure hope so.

Update

So, things have been going pretty well with my weight-loss plan.
I did pretty good working out the first week, but then I got pretty sick for two weeks and was not well enough to work out.  Unfortunately I still haven't gotten back in the groove.  I have been eating much better, though.  And in spite of not exercising, I have still managed to lose almost 9 pounds in three and a half weeks!  I am pretty happy about that.  Hopefully when I start exercising I will lose even more.


Chuseok was a lot of fun.  I ate a lot of really good food, and had a good time visiting with my friend and her family.
I don't know how Sports Day was for the kids, I was really sick and slept through most of it.


Other than that, not much is going on.  I have just been working and hanging out.


I am definitely ready to go back to the US.  I miss my family, as crazy as that sounds.  I think they are ready for me to come home, too.  I can't imagine why, though.  ^^
Well, I think that's all for now.  I will try to post again soon.  No more of this going a month between posts.
Have a great day!

Moving on. . .

So, summer holiday has ended and I have resumed teaching.  Kind of. . .  ^^  I work twice in the next two weeks.  Next week is Chuseok (추석) which is the Korean version of Thanksgiving or a Harvest celebration, which ever you prefer.  It lasts about three days and is a big deal.  Many Koreans do a ritual greeting of the ancestors, which is a really cool thing.  If you are ever in Korea and can experience this first hand, do it!  I will be joining my Korean friend and her parents.  I don't know what all they will be doing, I just know there will be a lot of food.
The week after next my school is hosting 'Sports Day', which means the students will go out and do sports for the whole day and there will be no classes.  And the Tuesday before Sports Day, which is Thursday, there will be a Sports Day practice, so no classes that day either!  So, little work, lots of time off!

I am about to embark on a new journey.
I feel like a fat ugly cow all the time.  People are always telling me I am not fat, but I feel like I am.  Especially when I am surrounded by Koreans, who are all twigs.  Well, I have finally had enough.  I am going to start changing things now.  I am going to start working out and eating a lot better.  
Hopefully I can ditch the size 14/16 jeans and get back into size 8.  My goal is to lose about 60 pounds.  I know that anyone who knows me will say I don't need to lose that much, but I do.  >.<
I have just started today, and for the most part, I think it went well.  I stayed in bed longer than I meant to, but that seems to happen on dark rainy days.  After I got up, I did a 30 minute work out.  It is called Hip Hop Abs, and it was a lot of fun!  Then I had breakfast, 2 eggs, scrambled with a little cheese melted in.  Then I cleaned my house, and went into town to do some grocery shopping.  Came home, put everything away and portioned out the meat I bought so I won't eat WAY more than I should, which is a problem I have.  Then I cooked dinner and ate it.  Dinner was lemon pepper pork with rice and a carrot.  Since then I have just been playing on the internet.
I am going to start weighing myself every few days and keeping a food diary of what I eat.  I would say that I would post my food diary on here, but I'm sure that is not something you are interested in.  If I have to write down what I am eating, I am probably going to be less likely to eat a bunch of junk.  I don't have much candy in the house and I bought a bunch of fruits and veggies when I was shopping.  Oranges, yum!  
Here's hoping I can stick to my guns on this!  I am sick of feeling fat, ugly and lazy!
I will be returning home in about 4 months.  I hope to lose enough weight that my family has to do a double take when they see me!
Think I can do it?  Want to join me?

Slacker

I am such a slacker.  I haven't been doing much of anything this summer, but I haven't made time to post.  Sorry for that.  I'm fired.So, I have made a new friend who lives near me.  She is Korean and has just returned from London.  Her aunt works at my school and decided to introduce us.  I'm glad she did.  My new friend is a really nice girl.  She is a year older than I am, and is interested in similar things.  She came over for dinner last night and we had a good time.  We talked and watched Pride and Prejudice, which is one of my favorite movies.
The plan to go to the beach a few days ago was ruined.  There was a typhoon and while we weren't in the direct path of it, we have been under the cloud cover and it has been rainy and miserable.  So, the beach trip has been postponed for next Wednesday.  Let's hope it works out this time.  I really want to go to the beach.
I have found a new song that I really like.  It is a good song that expresses how many girls feel.  I know it is how I feel all the time.  The name of the song is Ugly by a Korean female pop group called 2NE1.  (Please note that I mock their name all the time and I don't like very many of their songs, but this is the exception)
Here is a video with English subtitles.  The main chorus is in English, but some of the Korean lyrics are really poignant as well.  Let me know what you think.

Wow, it's been a while. . .

So, it has been quite a while since I last updated.  Sorry about that.  Life happened.  I was finishing up the semester, and then my computer decided to spazz on me, so I was dealing with those issues.  I finally got the issues fixed and mere hours after I had, my computer blew up, almost literally.  
There was a huge storm here and I guess there was a major power surge.  It fried my computer and my external hard drive where I had everything backed up.  So, I was computer-less for 2 days.
I bought a new computer from the nice electronics store employee.  He is so sweet!  I got free gifts and a major discount on my computer.  Sometimes it is good being the cute foreign girl!
To continue with the positive updates, I had a nice long chat with my friend the other day.  We talked out a lot of the issues we have been having with each other recently, so things are going much better with her now.
I gained a little weight recently, which made me less than pleased, but I seem to be losing it just as quickly, which is good.
I am on summer vacation and loving it.  No having to get up really early after a horrible night of barely sleeping and going to teach all day.  It is nice.  My friend and I are planning a trip to the beach in a week and a half, which I am excited about.  I love the beach!
Hopefully the weather will be better by then.  It has been raining a lot here recently.  Sadly, there has been flooding in Seoul and mudslides in Seoul and Chuncheon, which have killed and injured a number of people.  My heart goes out to all of them.
Well, I think that is it for now.  If anything else fun happens, I will update soon!

Failure. . .

Do you ever have days when you wonder if life is worth it?  I have been feeling that way lately.  I look at my life and wonder what I am doing with myself.
My time in Korea is fast approaching an end.  My contract is up in about six months and I have no idea what I want to do with myself when it is over.  I am really close to getting my bachelor's degree, so I know I want to get that, but I don't know where I want to get it.  I don't want to go back to the university I was at before, but I don't know where I want to go.  
That is problem number one.  Problem number two?  I don't know what I want to do with my life, even after I get my degree.
Due to recent events I have had to change what I had planned.  Things have changed, but now I don't know what to do.
All of this is making me feel like it isn't worth it.  I don't know what I want to do and I can't seem to find the motivation to figure it out.  There are so many things I WANT to do, but I never get around to doing them.  I feel like such a failure at life.
I want someone to come along and tell me what to do with my life, but that isn't going to happen.
A part of me wants to get married and have my husband make decisions for me. Unfortunately, I would need a man in my life for that to even be a possibility.  I have no boyfriend and no prospects, which has a tendency to depress me.  I know that I am not ready for a serious relationship right now, but that doesn't stop me from wanting it.
I think that is part of why I feel like a failure.  I don't have a career and I don't have a husband.  It has been pounded into my head that I should be married with children by now, but since I am not, I should have a career.  I have neither.  
I look at my life and I feel like I have nothing.  If I were to look in a mirror right now, (which I won't) all I would see would be a fat, ugly, useless, pathetic girl who fails at everything.  I know that isn't true, but it is what I would see.
I don't drink at all, but thinking about all of this makes me want to go out and get a bottle of wine and drink alone.
I know this has been a very depressing, negative post, but I am feeling depressed and negative, and I just wanted to get it all out there.
I will be more positive next time.

Apathetic

So, I have been feeling very apathetic towards life lately.  The weather has been weird.  It got really hot for a few days, and now it is back to being cold.  It has been raining for a few days and I miss the sun.  Being cold makes me feel so very blah.  I am kind of tempted to pull out one of my heaters.  (I have two.  A big one and a little one.)  Maybe then I won't be so listless.

Have you heard the song "Would It Matter" by the group Skillet?  I love that song, but there are so many times I feel that way, I have a hard time listening to it.  I know there are people who would miss me if I were gone, but some days it doesn't feel that way.

I bring this up because of a conversation I had with my friend the other day.  She said something that has been bothering me and has been making me feel like I can't really speak my mind.

That song came on and I told her that I should probably stop listening to it because it makes me kind of depressed.  She asked why and so I told her it was because it made me wonder if anyone really would miss me if I were gone.  She then proceeded to tell me that if I felt that way I should make it so people would miss me.  I know she didn't understand what I meant, and I can't seem to explain it in a way that she can understand.  I don't believe I have the ability to MAKE someone miss me.  She told me when it comes to things like that I see a wall and stop while she is climbing over the wall and moving on.  This seems to be her favorite thing to say to me.  I'm not sure she means for it to, but it comes across as somewhat condescending.  It makes me want to just stop talking to her.

My friend has been making the occasional comment about future events, and I keep thinking that we may not last that long.  I know I need to talk to her and tell her how I feel, but I don't know where to start.  It doesn't help anything that I am now feeling a little tense and uncomfortable around her.  I go over to her place and I get antsy and wonder when I can leave.  It used to be that I could go spend hours at her apartment doing nothing and be fine.  Now, if I'm not doing something, I am looking at the time, wondering if I can leave yet.

A good example of this is what happened on Saturday.  We went shopping in the next town over.  We usually get back around 5 or 6.  Well, we left earlier in the day so we got back earlier.  As we pulled up to her apartment complex she asked if I was coming in.  She said I could come up for a couple hours, then she would kick me out.  Before our little issue I would have gone up, but this time, I didn't really want to.  I told her I would just go home.  Well, I didn't actually go home for about 2 hours.  I went to a cafe and got my favorite drink (green tea frappeno) and sat and read for about an hour while I finished my drink.  I didn't go home, but I didn't really want to be with her either.

Anywho, moving on to a new topic.  Do you have a piece of jewelry you have to wear?  I used to be fine not wearing any jewelry.  Now, however, I have a pendant that I feel weird when I don't have it on.  Even at home, when I am just lounging around.  I now also feel naked when I don't have two bracelets and two rings on.  I have 5 bracelets and 5 rings I rotate between.  This all came about because I ordered a bunch of jewelry from ebay.  (yay for inexpensive stuff!)  I looked into stones and their mystical properties and found some that I knew I needed in my life and acquired some jewelry with those stones.  I want to learn more about stones and their properties and how they can be used, I just don't know where to start.   

The stone thing comes back to the Goddess.  I am still trying to figure out how I want to worship the Goddess and God.  I do know that I connect the Goddess to Earth and the energies and powers from it.  So, I am using the stones to help me with some issues I have been having.

Hematite is a very useful stone.  It is a protective stone and it also deflects negative energies.

Moss Agate is another of my favorites.  It has strong ties to nature and the Goddess.

Well, I think that is enough rambling for one entry.

Are there any stones you are fond of and want to know their mystical properties?  Or do you have a problem you need some help with?

Let me know, and I will do some research for you.

Summer!!! Yay and boo. ^^

It has been a while.

Life has been relatively uneventful.  Summer is here and it is getting hot, which means I have to fight getting cranky.  I love summer and sunshine, I just hate extreme heat.  Does that make sense?

My students are acting up, and I think it is because of the heat.  Poor things.  The school hasn't been turning on the AC in the classrooms, so it is very hot and miserable.  I feel bad for all of us.

In case you are wondering, things are slightly better with my friend.  We are spending some time together, but not a lot.  I don't message her very much, and I haven't been spending much time at her apartment.  I don't know if she realizes that anything is wrong.  If she does, she hasn't said anything.

I don't feel like I can really talk to her anymore.  I haven't told her anything about the Pagan/Wiccan thing, and there are some other things going on in my life that I haven't talked to her about either.  I don't feel comfortable talking to her about them anymore.  This means I have no one to talk to about certain things, but that is okay.  I can rely on myself.

On a happy(ish) note, I went to an art gallery with a friend this week.  It was fun.  I met up with my friend, whom I call Oppa (Korean for older brother), in Seoul.  We spend a couple hours in the museum and then we had an early dinner.  Then we did a bit of shopping.  After that, he took me to the bus terminal and helped me buy a ticket.  My bus didn't leave for about an hour, so we went across the street to a coffee shop.

I enjoyed myself, but there is a potential problem.  I kept wanting to touch Oppa.  Hug him, cuddle with him, that kind of stuff, and I gave in to that impulse frequently.  The problem is, I'm not sure if I am attracted to him because he is attractive or because I am lonely and just want a guy in my life.  I am worried about leading him on, because I know at one point in time he was attracted to me.  He mentioned wanting me to be his girlfriend.  Of course, that was two years ago and I was in America and he was in Korea at the time.  I don't know if his feelings have changed or if he is still attracted to me.  If he is, and I'm not really attracted to him, it isn't fair to him.  I don't want to hurt him because I do care about him.  I am very confused and don't know what to do.  Oppa hasn't done anything to indicate he wants more than a friendship with me, but I am worried.  I know I shouldn't be, especially since nothing may come of this, but I worry about everything.  What do you think I should do?  I am open to suggestions.

Hopefully things will work out.  Until then, here's hoping I don't worry too much about things I cannot control!

Long Winded Rant and Personal Discovery

So, you remember the issue I had with my friend the other day?  I tried to talk to her about it, and apparently I am a needy, clingy person. . .  

She didn't actually say that, but that is basically the message I got.  She told me that she got 'pissed as hell' (direct quote from her) when I told her I was annoyed that she changed her mind.  Apparently it was really hard for her to decide to go to Seoul by herself and she felt horribly guilty, because in her mind, we have to go everywhere together.  She told me she is a people pleaser and that the only reason she spends so much time with me is because I need the socializing.  She is basically a loner and doesn't need as much human contact as me.  Spending so much time with me was making her feel trapped.

I have to say, when I read that, (this conversation took place via Messenger) I was mad.  There were a lot of times I asked if it was okay to go to her apartment because I knew she wasn't as social as me.  She always told me she didn't care and to just come over, but it is still my fault we spend so much time together.  I gave her an excuse to tell me to not come over, but she never took it.  I have been aware of her loner tendencies since we met, and tried to accommodate her, but she never took advantage of that.

Since apparently she won't tell me to go away, I am giving her the space she seems to want.  I am refraining from contacting her at all.  It may seem childish to some, or that I am being a martyr, which I am aware of, but what else am I supposed to do?  She doesn't really want me around, but she won't tell me so.  Even typing this up now, I want to cry.  It hurts me that much to think that I have caused her pain and been such a bother to her.

She told me that she doesn't really have friends because they all seem to move on.  I can't help but wonder if it isn't because she pushes them away.  They know she doesn't really want them around, so they just drift away and find people who actually WANT to spend time with them, who actually make an effort to go visit them at their home instead of waiting for them to come to over.

That is an issue I have long had with this friendship.  She has never really made much of an effort to come visit me.  In America I would always go to her house.  She lived with her parents and their house is really nice.  I lived in a University apartment complex with 3 room mates.  We each had our own room and just shared the living room, kitchen and bathrooms.  My friend came over only a handful of times.  Every other time we met, I went to her house.

During the summers I would go to my parents' home in the neighboring state.  It was a 4 hour drive, and she told me flat out she would never come visit me at my parents'.  She refused to even think about it, which has always annoyed me.  It has always made me feel that I am not worth the effort.

What all of this leads to is simple.  I don't actually need her.  I have spent the last 3 days without her, and I have had really good days.  I enjoyed being in Seoul by myself.  It was nice.  I took my time, wandered where I wanted to, didn't have to worry about her getting antsy to be somewhere else or being bored.  Yesterday and today I just puttered around my house for a while, then I went in to Hongcheon and did a bit of shopping and then went to a cafe and got tea and just read for an hour or so.  She seems to think I need all sorts of attention, but really, I just need to be around people,  I don't actually need to talk to them.

I am giving her time to be a loner, and I am just enjoying my time alone as well.  In spite of the tension I have felt about the situation between us, I have been happier the past 3 days then I have been in a really long time.  Maybe it is because of the changes I am making, maybe it is because she has been a negative influence on me, I don't know.  Whatever it is, I like it.

I find it interesting when something positive comes from something so painful and negative.  Here's hoping the positive keeps coming!

How have you been the past few days?  Well, I hope.

My the light of the Goddess and the blessings of God be with you.

Bad Day, Good Day, Bad Day. . .

That is how my day has been, which I find very frustrating.

My friend suddenly decided last night that she wanted to go in to Seoul today.  I asked if I could tag along and she told me yes.  Then, she suddenly decided to change her mind.  I didn't mind that she wanted to go alone.  What I minded was her telling me yes, then changing it to no.  That really bugs me.  Then, to top it all off, she was sending me messages that seemed rather condescending to me.  She was telling me I could go to Seoul by myself and meet up with a friend.  It seemed to me like she felt the need to tell me what I already knew, and give me her permission.  She said that she wasn't being condescending when I told her that is how her messages came across.  Then she told me that I was just annoyed and taking everything she said the wrong way.  My response? Okay.  I was over the conversation.  Her final message about the topic was a snarky comment about me being condescending and she was finished with this conversation and was shutting off her phone.

I did go to Seoul by myself and I had a really nice time.  I went to Changgyecheon, which is a beautiful man-made stream that runs through part of Seoul.  Then I went to Namdaemun market followed by Myeongdong.  Visiting all of those places was really nice.  I just meandered at my own pace.  I hardly spoke a word all day, unless I was purchasing something, and it was awesome.

Now for the ending bad part.  I took the bus in, so I had to take the bus back and we got stuck in traffic.  So, the trip that should have taken an hour took an hour and a half, and I was going nuts by the end!  It didn't help that I wanted to glomp the guy sitting next to me.  He was not distractingly attractive.  I wanted to glomp him because he was a warm, living, breathing guy.  I have not been on a date in over 5 years, and I am rather lonely.  It doesn't help that I am a very physically affectionate person and I have no one to show that affection to.  My family is half a world away and I don't have any friends really close to where I live in Korea.  But enough of the pity party.

I had a fun drive from Hongcheon, where the bus dropped me off, to my home out in the countryside.  I had the windows rolled down and the music blasting.  It was great.  

Now, I should probably go meditate so that I can calm down enough to actually sleep tonight.  I just needed to rant about my day.  ^^  So, how was your day?  Feel free to share.  I made you read through my day, the least I can do is return the favor.

Final note I will leave you with, I found a really good song on the way home tonight.  I didn't realize it was on my Zune until it played.  It is called Unmistakable by the Backstreet Boys.  It perfectly describes how I am feeling about love right now.  What is your favorite song of the moment?

Welcome to my crazy world!

Welcome to my journey.

Allow me to introduce myself.  For the sake of anonymity, you may call me Topaz Phoenix.  

I grew up in a large family in America.  I am the second of five children and have always felt a little out of place.  I am now in my late 20s living in South Korea teaching English.  I love living here, and I finally feel like I belong somewhere.

I grew up going to the LDS church, or Mormon, as it is more commonly know.  When I was 15 I began questioning my faith, but never really felt that I could explore other faiths because my parents would not have handled it well.  When I was 21 I finally went away to college and took the time to look into Wicca and Paganism.  I really liked what I found.  However, this caused some of my friends to completely freak out.  One even called her pastor to come talk me out of it.  I listened politely even though he never said anything meaningful.  He just told me that Wicca was evil and that his mother had gone through a lot of religions before she went back to being a Baptist.  

Not long after this, I ended up moving back home with my parents and, once again, was restricted in what I could do, knowing how my parents would react.  I also began going back to the LDS church, as was expected of me by my father.  A few months later, I moved away from home and began attending a University in the neighboring state.  There, I continued going to the LDS church, by my own choice this time, and realized that I found comfort and strength in the things I was learning and remembering.  I realized that I had found my faith once again, and I was happy with this knowledge.

I never truly forgot about what I had felt and learned while looking into Wicca and Paganism, but I pushed it aside, knowing that the people I loved and respected would not respond well and that I had found something else to believe in.

However, recently I have been thinking more and more about the Goddess and all She stands for.  I know that Christian and Catholic religions teach that there is only one God, and he is the only one we should worship.  There is also a commandment to put no other gods before Him.  This caused a me dilemma for a short while.

I believe in the Goddess, but I still believe in God.  The LDS religion teaches that we have a Heavenly Father (God) and a Heavenly Mother.  Which leads to my argument: If Heavenly Father is God, wouldn't our Heavenly Mother be a Goddess?  And if, as the commandment says, we are supposed to honor our father AND mother, why can I not worship both God and Goddess?  They are my heavenly parents, after all.  As for the commandment, "Thou shalt have no other gods before me", well, I am not putting the Goddess before God, I hold them equal in regard.

I still believe in most things that I was taught growing up in the LDS faith, but I have also found that many aspects of Goddess worship appeal to me as well.  So, I guess one could say that I am a Wiccan/Pagan Mormon.  I believe in both and I feel that I can worship both without sacrificing my beliefs.

I know that some people out there will try to tell me that I am being deceived by the devil and that I can't believe in both. I am simply stating how I feel on the off chance that others may feel the same way.  Keep in mind that God has said "Judge not, that ye be not judged".  I don't judge you because of your beliefs, so don't judge me.  If you don't like what I am saying, then stay away from my blog.  No one is making you read it.

If you have any constructive thoughts on anything I have said, please leave a comment.  If you are just going to tell me I am evil and I am going to hell, don't bother leaving a message.

If you believe in something you know others will judge you for and look down on you because of, please know that this is a safe place to talk about it.  I am always willing to listen and help in any way I can.

I am finding my own path and I am happier because of it.  Are you willing to find your own path?